During a spirited discussion in one of our Care Groups last evening, a brother said that though a wife may take some of the blame for a failed marriage, the ultimate blame lands at the feet of the husband.
At first I strongly disagreed with him:
“We’re talking about two imperfect human beings here. Why ultimately the husband?”
“The husband has the greater responsibility to lead and protect.”
That Ephesians 5 text was his proof text (vv. 22ff).
And ol’ Adam only made matters worse:
6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. (Gen. 3:6-7, TNIV, emphasis added)
To be honest, I don’t want to agree with my dear brother. But I’m finding it hard to disagree.
The wife has a mind of her own. And no amount of healthy spiritual leadership in the home by the husband is fail proof against a marriage going sour.
Does it ultimately land at the husband’s feet?